The Other Side of Languishing

How are you doing?

I was telling a friend recently that I feel like Sylvester Stallone’s Rocky Balboa in the boxing ring. We’ve reached the final round, and I’m battered and bruised, my sharp jabs and uppercuts replaced by exhausted flailing. The big question – the only question – is whether this is the first fight of the film where I end up face down on the canvas, or whether it’s the second with the referee lifting my gloved hand into the air as Bill Conti’s film score soars.

How about you? As the months of this pandemic drag on, how are you doing?

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How are you doing?

I was telling a friend recently that I feel like Sylvester Stallone’s Rocky Balboa in the boxing ring. We’ve reached the final round, and I’m battered and bruised, my sharp jabs and uppercuts replaced by exhausted flailing. The big question – the only question – is whether this is the first fight of the film where I end up face down on the canvas, or whether it’s the second with the referee lifting my gloved hand into the air as Bill Conti’s film score soars.

How about you? As the months of this pandemic drag on, how are you doing?

It turns out there’s a name for what many of us are feeling these days: “languishing.” And as psychologist, author and Wharton professor Adam Grant wrote last month in a New York Times piece, as we learned that masks and social distancing slowed the spread of the coronavirus, and as vaccines roll out in some countries, the acute concern that many of us experienced at the onset of the global pandemic has given way to a chronic case of the “blahs.”

It’s not depression, but neither is it flourishing – the ends of the spectrum that define mental health. It’s the in-between and, as Grant puts it, it’s “the absence of well-being.” We’re languishing.

Part of the problem is that we want a return to normalcy. But we’re not sure what “normal” will look like when it gets back. And let’s be honest, some of what we learned about ourselves and our ability to be productive during this pandemic was not just positive, but downright impressive. I, for one, don’t want to lose those positive effects, but the whole package needs to be sustainable.

The New Normal

A recent report by Microsoft on trends affecting the workplace of the future suggests that the hybrid workplace is here to stay. In fact, they predict that the way organizations manage this transition will determine their ability to retain and attract talent.

The report, entitled, “The Next Great Disruption Is Hybrid Work – Are We Ready?” identified seven dominant trends:

  • Flexible work is here to stay – employees want it all: the ability to work remotely, but also time with their co-workers and teammates. Flexibility is going to be key.
  • Leaders are out of touch with employees and need a wake-up call – surveys show that seasoned veterans and business leaders are faring better than their employees during this downturn, with single employees, new employees, frontline and younger workers, and working mothers particularly impacted.
  • High-productivity is masking an exhausted workforce – using data collected from users of Microsoft Office, our employees are spending more time in (online) meetings, chatting, sending and receiving more email, and collaborating on documents. Technology has enabled us to collectively keep our industry running. But I’m concerned about sustainability as the growth in volume and pace is relentless.
  • Gen Z is at risk and will need to be re-energized – our youngest workers, those ranging in age from 18 to 25, need help. They’re most likely to be single, isolated and separated from the natural networking opportunities – the ability to observe and be seen – in an office setting. We need to find better ways to integrate and empower them in a hybrid world.
  • Shrinking networks are endangering innovation – as our teams came together to focus on the immediate challenges confronting our businesses, it was at the expense of cultivating and investing in our broader networks – the very places where new ideas, insights and opportunities might crystallize.
  • Authenticity will spur productivity and well-being – nothing has humanized our colleagues and our shared work experience more than a meeting interrupted by a diaperclad toddler or barking dog. That doesn’t usually happen in my conference room at work; it does on Zoom. 
  • Talent is everywhere in a hybrid work world – this is good news for employees who have opportunities they’d otherwise lack unless they were willing to move; it’s also good news for employers who can identify and attract talent from anywhere. What it might mean for both groups is a time of upheaval and change. The study cites a survey indicating that 40 percent of the global workforce is considering changing employers.

One takeaway from the report is that there is much to look forward to, but that “we’re all learning as we go.” This suggests that it might take a while for a new definition of “normal” to come into focus. So what to do in the meantime, especially if you’re languishing?

You Need the Flow, the Flow to Grow

Grant suggests that “a concept called ‘flow’ may be an antidote to languishing.” First popularized by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihaly, flow is the state that emerges when someone is fully engaged in a task that requires their focus and concentration. If you’ve ever been gotten involved in a project that was so engrossing that you looked up and hours have passed, you’ve experienced flow. It’s typically accompanied by a state of deep enjoyment and contentment.

But you need to create time for these activities, and it has to be uninterrupted time, because a key element of entering the flow state is an ability to focus. If you can’t focus, because you’re distracted by email, chat, social media, etc., you’re going to have a hard time getting into flow.

Grant also recommends picking some small projects to start. You don’t end languishing in one fell swoop. You do so by chipping away at it, one goal or project at a time, each achievement of flow helping rekindle the fire that moves you toward flourishing.

“Languishing is not in our heads – it’s in our circumstances,” Grant concludes. You can change circumstances, rediscovering energy and enthusiasm in the process. Can you hear the music? Cue Bill Conti.

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